I grew up on a farm. A farm with a household of girls. I was expected to buck bales, drive tractor, rake hay, feed livestock, milk cows and, yes, haul manure. Putting in those hours of chores wasn’t only expected, but it was a vital contribution to our family’s livelihood. I was a part of putting food on the table of America and our home.
In light of that, it should be no surprise to you that I believe children need responsibility. Read that again. Children need responsibility. It is our duty as their parents to raise them well and responsibility is a main component of that.
I’ve found that as we added children to our family or got deeper into homeschooling, my responsibilities grew year after year. If my children had no responsibilities, I know our house would be a total disaster, my patience would be worn thin, and I would spend no time just enjoying my children. Thankfully, they are very able helpers!
Last summer, when I posted the Nourishing Routines series. This series walked you through the steps I have taken to bring as much order as possible to my days. The final post in that series was all about how I delegate routines to my children.
At the time of that post, we were using a piece of paper tacked to the refrigerator as our chore chart. Implementing the chore system was very dependent on me – my mood, my energy level, my willingness to follow-through, and my reading the chart to my non-readers. In all honesty, at the end of a long school day, chores did not always get done. It was just way too easy to do it myself!
After Christian’s hospital stay, we hired a housekeeper to come in for a couple hours every week. That lasted for 1 month before I knew that having a housekeeper is not all it’s cracked up to be! I started having her come every other week, and now we are again the sole cleaners of our home.
In order to make that transition happen without total chaos ensuing, I knew I needed to make our chore system work for us. I could not do it all on my own, and I needed a tool to take the burden of chores off my shoulders.
Enter Managers of their Chores.
This book has been on my “To Be Read” list for quite some time, but I figured I knew what it said and continued to put it off. In all honesty, I was quite turned off by the idea of my children wearing this thing around their neck. Seems a little over the top, right?
When I was working on revamping our routines, family schedule, and chores this spring, I knew I needed to try something different. I got the book, against my better judgement, and immediately started Googling what other bloggers had to say about not only Managers of Their Chores, but ChorePacks (the system advocated for in Managers of their Chores).
( You can pick up a used copy of Managers of their Chores on Amazon very inexpensively!)
What are ChorePacks:
ChorePacks are simply a system for organizing your children’s chores. Each card represents a chore to complete. The cards are kept in order in an ID badge the child wears as they work.
As each chore card is completed, it is moved to the back of the ChorePack. The new card displayed is the next chore to be completed. The child is done with chores when they have completed all their chore cards.
Why ChorePacks Work:
Initiates Chore Time
The simple act of handing the ChorePack to your child acts as the chore time initiator. When it is 4 pm, I tell my kids to get their ChorePacks and they grab them and get to work (I work alongside of them!).
They can’t forget.
Maybe my kids are the only ones, but they have a tendency to get “Chore Amnesia” and forget the task at hand. The ChorePack acts as a constant reminder of what they are supposed to be doing.
They know what comes next.
When they wear their ChorePack, kids know what they are supposed to do next. They don’t have to reference a chore chart or ask mom. They simply move the cards around and the new chore is shown in the front of their pack.
Cuts down on nagging.
I just hand my kids the ChorePack and they know it is time to do chores (these times are scheduled into our day). I then let them loose! If they don’t finish the ChorePack or do a sloppy job, then I can administer consequences. There is no excuse that they forgot or didn’t know what they were supposed to do.
Provides a visual endpoint.
Chores don’t go on forever! The kids know I won’t keep assigning chores. Get your ChorePack done and you are free!
ChorePack Magic!
Seriously! If you are a bit skeptical about ChorePacks, I suggest you give them a try. The kids zip right through their chores and are proud of their work (that isn’t to say I don’t ever deal with a sour attitude, but, in general, they don’t loathe completing their ChorePack!).
How I made our ChorePacks:
I used my previously established routines for the kids and edited them to be ChorePack friendly. Using OpenOffice (you could also use Excel), I manipulated the cells to fit the badges I purchased for use as our ChorePacks. I printed them out on cardstock, cut them, and then drew pictures for my pre-readers. You could buy your ID badges at an office supply store, but I purchased mine off Amazon here for a good price.
- Establish what chores your children will be doing and when.
- Purchase ID Badges (enough for all your children)
- Use OpenOffice or Excel to make your Chore Cards.
- Print on cardstock
- Draw pictures for your prereaders.
Helpful Hints:
Hint 1: Make the chore cards longer than the ID Badge pocket so they are easier for little hands to move around. I ended up redoing mine for this very purpose.
Hint 2: ChorePacks work better if the chore are not assigned throughout the day. We use our ChorePacks for morning chores and then an afternoon cleaning block. The children each have a pre-meal and post-meal chore to complete as well, but that is not in the ChorePack.
Hint 3: For my oldest child (nearly 10), morning chores are on one chore card instead of multiple cards. He knows the drill from years of experience and the morning chore card only acts as a prompt for him. My younger kids, who are still learning their morning chores, have a card for each morning chore.
What is in our ChorePacks:
Morning Chores (everyone):
- Get dressed
- Make bed
- Quick room pick-up
- Brush teeth
- Chore check with Mom
Lilla (4 years old):
Extra morning chore:
- Wet wipe the bathroom vanity
Afternoon Chores:
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- Laundry (fold and put away)
- Straighten shoes by back door
- Set supper table
Christian (6 years old):
Extra Morning Chore:
- Feed and water the dog
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Afternoon Chores:
- Laundry (fold and put away)
- Weekly Chore:
- Monday – Clean Room
- Tuesday – Clean out under couches
- Wednesday – Brush the dog
- Thursday – Help Lowell with chores
- Friday – Pick up yard
- Wipe Downstairs bath
Lowell (almost 10 years old):
Extra morning chores:
- Let the dog out and in
- Dress and change the baby
Afternoon ChorePack:
- Laundry (fold and put away)
- Take out compost and recycling
- Get the mail
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- Monday – Clean room (follow directions behind door)
- Tuesday – Take out Garbages and to curb, Sweep porch, slab, and sidewalk
- Wednesday – Windex windows/mirrors/computer/tv, change Baby’s crib sheet, empty the vacuum canister
- Thursday (monthly chores)
- Week 1 – Sweep Garage and change fish’s water
- Week 2- Clean out car
- Week 3 – Vacuum car and change fish’s water
- Week 4 – Clean basement
- Friday – pick-up yard, sharpen school pencils and empty pencil sharpener
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Staying inspired in your Homemaking and Parenting…
These ChorePacks are only one fruit of the time I have spent organizing, planning, and shaping our homemaking, homeschool, and family life this spring. I want to live well, live intentionally, and live wisely.
I find it so important to be continually inspired in my homemaking and parenting. It is so easy to feel like you are being drug through life, but I want to live joyfully and intentionally. Reading is one way I stay inspired, as my Amazon account can testify.
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Desiree says
I love these! I used them when I only had four kids and they are really wonderful. Then, kids grew, we moved, and I never got them updated and kund of forgot about them. But my house would ne cleaner if I got them out again, for sure. 🙂
ellaclare85@yahoo.com says
Ha! Yes, they are really helpful. We “only have four” in the numerical sense, but it seems like we have 6 in the work load sense.
Desiree says
Ugh, my phone sent my comment before I was done. I was going to add, I said “only four,” but only in a numerical sense, not a workload one. Four is tough stuff. In some ways eight is easier!
Erin says
We are planning to implement this system you have described. Can you share what your consequences are for a child who doesn’t complete his/her ChorePack? And also, do you have any peaceful solution to the problem when a shared bedroom has become a mess, and/or the living room is a mess of toys…maybe two children made those messes but the third one was not part of it. How do you deal with cleaning up those shared spaces in a fair way? Or is it simply not fair, both must work on cleaning up, and that is life? : ) I have a younger child who is notoriously known for sitting around while the older sibling does all the work…any advice for dealing with that in a nice way? My solution was to just let the older sibling leave and then leave the younger in there till she cleans up, but I know she will feel overwhelmed and alone and throw a major tantrum. Any suggestions for all my problems? : ) And please pray for us this summer as we implement your system! I am so glad you shared about it – this mama needs help!
ellaclare85@yahoo.com says
These are all really, really, really good questions, Erin. I have pondered them all myself. I don’t have a magic wand or all the answers, but here are my thoughts:
1. Consequences: I am the administrator of the system. As such, I do not expect that after having set up the system that it will just run on its own. I begin our chore time. It is always at the same time, but I am the initiator. I give them a 5 minute heads up so they aren’t taken off guard and then when I give them their ChorePack they must begin their work. If they dawdle or do something poorly (taking into account their individual abilities), they must do it over again. We have a chunk of “free time” after chores and so if they must repeat chores, they are losing their free time. If they are directly disobedient (“No I won’t!”) then I deal with the disobedient attitude in a stricter way (usually corporal punishment). Poorly done chores may also mean a loss of privileges. As the administrator, I must initiate and then do the follow up to make sure the system is working.
2. Shared messes: This is the precise reason why I don’t assign a child a room besides their own bedroom. It wouldn’t be fair for one of my children to always be responsible for the toy room which becomes a federal disaster area each day. I usually make sure each child is cleaning up their own messes. I do expect my oldest to help with the little one’s messes, but if they (the littles) aren’t doing their fair share, the oldest can do a “fair share of the work” and then, after asking permission, be excused from the cleaning. So, yes, life isn’t fair and we all need to help each other, but I also don’t want slackers. I would make sure to notify the “slacker” that they will be left alone to complete the job if they do not start helping. All of this complicates matters considerably. I wish there were an easier system, but I figure training my children’s characters is just as important as a simplified system.
Here are a few ways I’m changing up the ChorePacks for next year. I am going to consolidate chores to one or two major cleaning sessions during the week versus evenly breaking them up over 6 days of the week. I found it hard to implement the system every day – mostly my own lack of motivation! My kids only watch movies/TV about once or twice a week, so I plan on using that as a motivator. It is amazing how fast the work gets done when they are anticipating a movie!
I hope the system works for you! Remember that no system works without an administrator, the importance of follow-through, and motivators! 🙂 Blessings!